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Shaping up to get pregnant
Fear of pregnancy may result in infertility.
There are cases where both spouses are in physically healthy condition but keep failing with pregnancy. Assuming that they were under a lot of stress, I referred them to a psychiatrist. It turns out that they had anxieties about pregnancy itself rather than being stressed out by failed pregnancy attempts.
Having your first child
is such an ecstatic feeling. But as months pass by and even years, your confidence turns into a sense of despair, and the couples start conplaining about everything that’s going wrong. Women tend to worry more and doubt her husband’s general ability. They experience extreme mood swings depending on their menstruation period. When menstruation occurs a little late, the woman may feel very excited as she believes she is pregnant. But if it starts back again and she finds out she’s not pregnant, she falls into a state of severe despair. It becomes a cycle of stress.
Stress and recurrent miscarriage
In this day and age, stress is a universal topic of discussion. Many people study how much influence stress has on our relationships, work productivity, eating habit and even sleep life. An appropriate amount of stress can be a good stimulus for humans to defend themselves and encourage self-development. But excessive stress that cannot be handled causes a slew of stress-derived diseases. Six out of ten deaths announced by the World Health Organization are reported to be stress-related. So we must wonder at this point if stress has something to do with pregnancy.
I’ve talked with
many women and listened to their stories through the recurrent miscarriage clinic. There was a couple who attempted for natural pregnancy for more than a year. In the end, she decided to quit her job due to stress. Surprisingly, she then got pregnant. You might hear similar stories around you, like those who say they succeeded in having a child once they start feeling comfortable about the whole thing.
Stress makes natural pregnancy difficult
A study shows that immensely stressful factors such as sorrow from the loss of a child or parent may affect the sterility rate of men and women alike. Similarly, psychological stress in our everyday life can be small but powerfully influential on your ability to reproduce. Many studies report that women who experience too much psychological stress are prone to changing their eating and sleeping habits, adversely affecting a baby’s weight and metabolic regulation. As hormones and steroids in our body respond to such negative changes one by one, even deteriorating a woman’s ovulating ability. Likewise, men experience deterioration in their ability to produce sperm, erection and ejaculation altogether. Theses stresses in our daily life can be small but you must not ignore their accumulated impact to your power to conceive.
Stress from sterility treatment
Multiple studies stress the importance of the correlation between body-mind and fertilization but not many studies have been conducted on the psychological aspects in sterility treatment. From hormonal treatment to external fertilization, the process of sterility treatment puts a lot of pressure on a woman and her husband physically and mentally. If they are not successful in these attempts, they end up feeling greatly disappointed. Further, they are diagnosed as having medical issues in getting pregnant and that will probably work against their ego. There are three hypotheses on the psychological elements induced by infertility.
First, the psychological elements
contribute to infertility. Second, it is mentally painful just to be going through the diagnosis of infertility and the treatment that follows. Third, there is a correlation between psychological factors and infertility.
Coping with the stress induced by infertility
A positive mindset works wonders in overcoming difficulties in life. If you two as a couple are under a lot of stress due to the current situation, it will adversely affect your natural pregnancy. Spouses in despair don’t help anything, it just makes things worse. In this case, don’t hesitate to seek counseling. Meet with people who have been there but succeeded in having a child of their own. Listen to their stories on how they coped with the stress caused by infertility and get help.
5 ideas to help you deal with infertility stress
Just think of stress management as one of your daily chores. Making an effort won’t do you any harm. In this spirit, let me give you five ideas to help you get through your day and deal with the stress caused by infertility.
- A. Find some time to relax.
Try to leave your work on time and spend more time together as a couple. When you get home, don’t just sit in front of the TV. If you really need to know what’s going on in the society, you can seek another source. At any rate, try to break away from the TV as much as possible to better your communication with each other.
Anything you two can do to spend healthy time together would be good, like taking a bath together. Why don’t you read books together? Find some time for productive activities.
- B. Exercise.
Again, you don’t need to exhaust yourself by working out. Just get outside and walk around the block. Go to a park, enjoy the nature and spend some time in the outdoors. Find a balance between your family, work and the world. Feel the energy of the nature. Nature will enable you to get pregnant naturally. You get to learn to live a long life like the earth if you live the way it does. You must love nature. Regaining a sense of connection to the earth lessens the burdens of the everyday life. If you can’t get outside, however, no need to worry. Go to the gym. At any rate, nothing can beat exercise as a stress reliever.
- C. Meditate or pray.
Do yourself a favor and pay attention to what meditation is all about. Meditation is an energy consisting of images. Sit quietly by yourself for about 10 to 15 minutes a day and picture your baby inside your womb (for the husband, picture your baby in your wife’s womb). Provide the images of your everyday life at home and at work to your virtual baby. At the end of the day, you’ll feel encouraged. Make this a habit and you two will feel more genuine and sincere about having a baby. Meditate with the image of you with your newborn. It should strengthen your relationship with your spouse, helping you to focus on natural pregnancy.
- D. Eat healthy food.
Picking fresh and nutritional ingredients to make what you like is one of the greatest ways to enrich your relationship with your spouse. If you think you spend too much time cooking, order your meals and relax. Nutrition comes first at all times. Some argue that natural pregnancy comes from eating pollution-free foods, but I don’t want you to get confused by it. I’ve seen one too many so-called natural foods with hefty price tags just because they’re organic. At any rate, you should prepare your body for natural pregnancy with your spouse.
- E. A positive mindset is important.
Always think “we are destined to bear a child in the natural way.” Avoid reading books on infertility if it makes you feel gloomy. Of course, you’ll have to learn about the risk factors, too, by reading books on pregnancy, but panicking is not the answer. Also, you two can think of it as you’ve become more knowledgeable about the possible problems. It is not about fearing the deterrents of natural pregnancy, but about gaining more knowledge of natural pregnancy.